Be
Happy:
We all know that
money can't buy happiness … but many times we act as if we'd be happier with a
bit more money.
We
are conditioned to want to be rich (when we know the rich aren't happy
either)...
We
are trained to want the latest gadget or style that television tells us to
want...
We
want to earn more money because then we'll have the good life.
But
none of that will bring us happiness. No matter how much we earn.No matter how
much we have in the bank.
No
matter how nice our clothing or cars or toys, none of it will make us happier.
And
the sad thing is that it could take us decades of pursuing wealth and luxury
items before we realize this.
So
what will bring us happiness? Luckily, it's three things that don't cost a
thing.
These
three things have been proven by research - surveys of hundreds of thousands of
people about what they have, what their lives are like, and how happy they are.
Here
they are, the "Three Secrets to Happiness":
1.
Good relationships: We have a human need to be close, to be intimate, with
other human beings.
Having
good, supportive friendships, a strong marriage or close and loving
relationships with our family members will make us much more likely to be
happy.
Action
steps: Take time, today, to spend time with your loved ones, to tell them what
they mean to you, to listen to them, and develop your relationship with them.
2.
Positive thinking: I'm obviously a big proponent of positive thinking as the
best way to achieve your goals, but it turns out that it can lead to happiness
too.
Optimism
and self-esteem are some of the best indicators of people who lead happy lives.
Happy
people feel empowered, in control of their lives, and have a positive outlook
on life.
Action
steps: Make positive thinking a habit. In fact, this should be one of the first
habits you develop.
Get
into the habit of squashing all negative thoughts and replacing them with
positive ones.
Instead
of "I can't" think "I can". It may sound corny, but it has
worked for me, every time.
3.
Flow: This is a popular concept on the Internet these days - the state we enter
when we are completely focused on the work or task before us.
We
are so immersed in our task that we lose track of time.
Having
work and leisure that gets you in this state of flow will almost undoubtedly
lead to happiness.
People
find greatest enjoyment not when they're passively mindless, but when they're
absorbed in a mindful challenge.
Action
steps: Find work that you're passionate about. Seriously - this is an extremely
important step.
Find
hobbies that you're passionate about.
Turn
off the TV - this is the opposite of flow - and get outside and do
something that truly engages you.
You've
been given the Three Secrets to Happiness. Don't waste them!
Follow
these and be motivated...
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